Recent events in my life have lead me to believe that not enough has been said about the realities of human sexuality and behavior.
Humans are extremely variant creatures sexually. Some humans are devout monogamists. Some humans are total polygamists. Some humans make porn. Some humans form sexual communes. Some humans clothe themselves in heavy duty robes and rarely show any skin at all. Some humans rarely wear clothes. Some humans get off on certain types of clothes. Some humans like to have sex in bunny suits. Some humans like to tie each other up and whip each other. Some humans want to be sexually dominant all the time. Some humans want to be submissive all the time. Some humans get off on some really strange activities. Some humans just want to have sex and pass out.
The point here is that there really is nothing wrong with any of these behaviors. So why do people feel the need to superimpose their sexual morality on others? This is how wars get started.
Historically speaking, every attempt to control sexual behavior has failed miserably. There are numerous accounts of the absurd underground sex world of Victorian England, one of the more sexually repressive societies; the vast majority of marriages these days end in divorce, and one of the main causes of divorce is infidelity.
So can we please stop judging each other's sexualities? Whether we like it or not most humans have free will on how they behave sexually - one can do what feels right to themselves or one can be constrained by the morality of some other person or religion or some bullshit ideal that doesn't actually exist.
The sooner we learn to live and let live as a species and focus our energies elsewhere from judging each other, the sooner we'll actually accomplish something worthy of our actual intelligence.
To quote from Schroedinger's Cat by Robert Anton Wilson:
"Benny had actually read Darwin once in college a long time ago, and had heard of sciences like ethology and ecology, but the facts of evolution had never really registered on him. He never thought of himself as a primate. He never realized that his friends and associates were primates. Above all, he never understood that the alpha males of Unistat (The United States) were typical leaders of primate bands. As a result of this inability to see the obvious, Benny was constantly alarmed and terrified by the behavior of himself, his friends and associates and especially the alpha males of the pack. Since he didn't know it was ordinary primate behavior, it seemed just awful to him.
Since a great deal of primate behavior was considered just awful, most of the domesticated primates spent most of their time trying to conceal what they were doing.
Some of the primates got caught by other primates. All of the primates lived in dread of getting caught.
Those who got caught were called no-good shits.
The term no-good shit was a deep expression of primate psychology. For instance, one wild primate (a chimpanzee) taught sign language by two domesticated primates (scientists) spontaneously put the words together the signs for "shit" and "scientist" to describe a scientist she didn't like. She was calling him a shit-scientist. She also put together the signs for 'shit' and 'chimpanzee' for another chimpanzee she didn't like. She was calling him a shit chimpanzee.
'You no-good shit," domesticated primates often said to each other.
This metaphor was deep in primate psychology because primates mark their territories with excretions, and sometimes they threw excretions at each other when disputing over territories."
- From the Universe Next Door, Page 15-17, by Robert Anton Wilson.